The Girlfriends are the First to Go
One of the hardest things for me about being a stay at home mom is spending time with my girlfriends. No, I mean without the kids! Play dates can be great but the conversation leaves a lot to be desired, like a complete sentence. Conversations usually go something like this. “So we went to the ….let Billy play with your dinosaur, honey… So we went to the museum…I’ll get you a snack in a little while, go play… So we went to the museum at the plaza… the movie isn’t over yet sweetie those were just the previews…. Where did we go again?”
My girlfriend Jill and I are in the same situation so we try to get out to the movies every once in a while. It is amazing how hard it can be. We try planning ahead and inevitably one of the kids will get sick. We try being spur of the moment and the hubbies can’t get home early enough because they didn’t have enough notice. We plan it a couple days ahead and the car will break down or one of our hubbies will have a last minute disaster at work and not be able to get home early enough for a 7pm show.
Once we have the date set getting out the door is another obstacle. These are children we are dealing with here and to hope that they will be cooperative and docile for their Dad after his long day at work can sometimes be asking too much. I usually end up staying until everyone is calm and settled so the guilt does not butt it’s annoying head into my night out. Leaving the house with an upset child (or Dad!) ruins the whole plan.
Once in a while the stars align themselves and my girlfriend and I end up in a little coffee house somewhere gabbing over a very large chocolate brownie. We talk about the kids, our hubbies and catch up on the latest gossip. It is wonderful! Then we go to a chick flick where we laugh at the young, single, beautiful people falling in and out and back into love.
It is probably so much fun for me because it is so hard to come by. I am always surprised at how quickly we get through all of the topics we had been saving just for this girl time. Full sentences can come out quickly when kids are not distracting your train of thought.
I love…just a minute, sweetie…my girl’s…dinner is in a half hour don’t fill up on junk now…. night out…you’ll be working late, I understand…When can we have another one? I’m looking forward to it.
